It’s important for partners to discuss finances, even if only one of you takes the lead on the day-to-day money management. Make sure you’re both aware of key financial information in case of injury or illness to keep difficulties minimal.
talking about money
Use these conversation starters to keep both partners aware of what both of you should know.
- Is there a list all accounts, investments, and debts?
- Where are records filed? Are they stored digitally or on paper?
- Do both people know the usernames and passwords for these accounts?
- How are bills paid? How are expenses tracked?
- Where are estate planning documents? Who has copies?
- What kinds of arrangements are planned in case of a death?
- Who are the beneficiaries of your assets?
- How do children fit into the financial picture?
- Where important legal documents are (like birth certificates, marriage licenses, passports)?
- Where are insurance policies?
Before entering into a partnership, it’s important to understand each other’s views about money. Don’t forget: marriage is a contract. You’ll have money flowing in and out. Here are some things to consider.
Topics to discuss before marriage
Before getting engaged, you may have your own savings, checking, and investment accounts. What mix of private and joint accounts is best for you? What independence do you need with your money? What joint goals are you both working toward?
Will you live in one partner’s home or find one together? If selling a property is in the picture, make sure to talk through potential tax consequences from capital gains with your tax professional.
Talk through where you want your money to go and why. How much of a cushion makes you both comfortable? What things do you want to save for? What types of insurance should you have now? (Don’t forget to revisit your insurance needs as situations change).
Now that there are two of you, you may have to take a closer look at each partner’s attitudes about and habits with money. A budget is a good way to make sure you’re both contributing towards your financial goals.
This subject can be tricky, but it’s important. You both will need to feel good about when you borrow money and why. You also need to understand what debt each person is bringing to the marriage, and then decide which debts to combine and which to keep separate. There are pros and cons to each.
Many advisors recommend that each individual keep his or her own credit cards and credit history. Doing so helps ensure financial independence and provides greater flexibility if either spouse finds himself or herself alone at some point in the future. Also, if one spouse has a poor credit history, it may be advisable not to combine debt. This lets the other spouse keep his or her good credit rating.
A wedding is a hopeful thing. It may not feel like the right time to be considering death and disability, but when you’re deciding to take responsibility for each other, it’s something you should discuss. Consider the consequences of losing wages or passing away without an estate plan in place. Pay attention to the beneficiaries on life insurance, IRAs , 401(k) plans and other plans that allow naming a beneficiary. What’s written in those policies could override will or trust instructions. If you have questions, talk to an estate planning professional.
Going through a divorce can be one of life’s most painful experiences. In addition to the emotional stress, you have to make your way through the process of undoing the many financial connections you and your spouse have created over the years.
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If you or your children are having difficulty coping with the divorce, don’t wait for the problem to get bigger. Consider talking with a qualified counselor or spiritual advisor.
be smart about inheritance
The best thing you can do when you receive an inheritance or other type of payout is take your time. You need to think about short-term and long-term goals and opportunities. You’ll need to understand your priorities.
First, identify your financial priorities. Look for short-term opportunities to use this money to further your financial goals.
- Create an emergency fund that will cover at least six-month’s worth of expenses.
- Pay down or eliminate debts. Some experts recommend starting with the highest interest rate debts first.
- Check in on your retirement savings progress. Do you have enough saved?
- Review your insurance coverage. Do you have appropriate health insurance? Property and casualty insurance? Do you have life insurance if there are others who rely upon you?
- If a mortgage could be a burden in retirement, considering paying that down.
- Look at funding a child’s college education.
- Consider your own legacy for your children or grandchildren, or for your favorite charity or worthy cause.
If you’re not sure where to begin, consider these questions when thinking about how to handle this money:
- Is the money needed for immediate use?
- What do you want to use the money for? Organize your wish list into “needs” versus “wants.” Prioritize the needs first, but you may be able to spend a small portion of your payout to buy something you want or do something fun
- Do I want to leave money to my children or grandchildren?
- How can I make the wealth last?
- If you inherit things rather than money, such as cars, boats, real estate, and jewelry, what can be done with them?
- How would the person who left me the inheritance want me to handle it?
- With the Minors Trust and Per Capita Distribution, how can I invest it for my future education or achieving the great American dream of owning a home?
You may experience lots of emotions when coming into a payout. These feelings can cloud your judgement or keep you from seeing the long-term possibilities or consequences of your decisions.
Inherited wealth often results from the passing of a close family member or friend. You may feel guilty or undeserving of this money. Others may think that how things are distributed is unfair, creating friction between survivors.
Sudden access to significant money like an inheritance or Minors Trust or Per Capita Distribution could create a lot of excitement, leading to a spending spree or impulsive decisions for major purchases.
You may also feel overwhelmed by responsibility and unsure of what you should do next.
The many feelings you may experience after receiving a payout are why it’s so important to take time before making decisions.
You don’t have to go through this alone. Trusted advisors can work with you to manage the inheritance in a way that lines up with your goals by:
- Determining the best investment options and planning strategies to build, protect, and manage your money
- Developing a financial and estate plan
- Understanding the various financial issues involved with different types of inherited assets